208: The BJJ Mindset That Wins On and Off the Mat

Have you ever been told you need to be "more aggressive" on the mats, only to find yourself awkwardly trying to manufacture anger toward your competition or training partners?

Or maybe you've been labeled "too aggressive" at work when being direct about your boundaries, expectations, or needs.

The line between assertive and aggressive is often blurry for women in BJJ and beyond.

It’s time for a mindset shift. Assertiveness isn’t aggression; it’s clarity, confidence, and control. Let’s reframe how we go after what we want, on and off the mats, without forcing anger or being unfairly labeled.

 

Chapters

Certainly! Here is the sequence of topics covered in the transcript, now with timestamps:

(00:00) Calling out hate speech

(05:19) Why your BJJ gym needs to feel safe and supportive

(07:11)  Mindset shift to reframe aggressiveness as assertiveness

(09:16) When your coach tells you to be more aggressive

(11:01) Being full of NO

(14:18) The role of aggressiveness in Martial Arts

(16:45) Learning to be proactive instead of reactive

(17:45) Assertiveness vs. Aggression off the mat

 

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